Abstract Chatter

B*tch Bad
November 20, 2012, 10:24 pm
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ImageYesterday during halftime at the Wizards game, we watched young children describe to the fans what they were most thankful for. The game was against the Pacers so one kid said he was glad to not live in Indianapolis; the other was thankful for the Wizards, and finally the youngest of them all said he was thankful for the Wizards girls. Now on the surface, this may sound innocuous. Beautiful people is indeed something to be thankful for. But it just didn’t seem to fit the response of a small child who couldn’t have been more than 4 years old.

What further angered me was how the conversation continued. So then Big Tigger laughed at the response, and continued on with comments which perpetuated the already degrading nature of the kid’s original response. Big Tigg said something along the lines of, “Oh- you do, don’t you?  Well, which one is your favorite Wizards girl? Go pick one.”

This, in my opinion, is more than just inappropriate. This is the (erroneous) socialization of our brown and black boys. This is exactly the type of conversation which infuriates me. It continues to validate why I’m not a fan of people, particularly black/brown men in public roles such as Big Tigger. The audacity of him to not understand his role as a public figure, and be completely unaware of the environment around him…

My mind has now wondered off to the role of cheerleaders. But that’s a whole different post that I won’t delve into now.

My husband, of course tells me I’m trippin- that I overreacting to the comment, and that many things easily upset me. I personally didn’t feel as if I overacted.

I then remembered Lupe’s song, Bitch Bad. I swear this man is a lyrical genius (sometimes.)

Now imagine there’s a shawty, maybe five maybe four
Ridin’ ’round with his mama listening to the radio
And a song comes on and a not far off from being born
Doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong
Now I ain’t trying to make it too complex
But let’s just say shawty has an undeveloped context
About the perception of women these days

This situation just made me more conscious of how we as adults can influence the very malleable minds of children. That in an instant, the brief moment of innocence that consumes a child vanishes as if it never exited.